Lopez not heading down aisle soon
11:41am Tuesday 11th March 2014 in © Press Association 2014
Jennifer Lopez has said she is in no hurry to get hitched again and doesn't have "fairytale ideals" any more.
The Jenny From The Block singer told InStyle US that her attitude to love had changed after three marriages and divorces, to Ojani Noa, Cris Judd and Marc Anthony.
According to the Daily Mail, she told the magazine: "In the past, love for me has always meant forever and sure you still nurse those fantasies, but I don't try to force it any more. I hung on to my fairytale ideals for a long time. But where I am now, what I've been through, there are no rules.
"There are lots of ways it can turn out instead of just one. There are so many different kinds of happiness, not just the one you learned about when you were five years old."
She admitted: "Look, I don't love being alone. I don't. I can't beat myself up about that. What I have to do is figure out why I don't like it. Why am I not OK being alone? And can I be OK facing that?
"I've been through a lot of emotional ups and downs. But then you get to a point in life where it suddenly occurs to you that you don't need all the things you thought you once did - that's really, well, convoluted.
"My life feels overblown sometimes and I don't want it to be. I want it to be streamlined. So I'm living a much more unscripted life."
J-Lo, 44, added: "Kids really focus you - it's primal. You come home and you're tired and they have no idea if you've had the greatest day or the roughest. 'Mommy, I don't care if your head hurts, I want to sit in your lap and eat food in your hair'."
She said of her new album: "This album is tough. I used to be all 'I love you, hearts and flowers' but now it's 'I love you but I am not going to let you take advantage of me.' There's a strength but there is also a humour. It's about being smarter about love - and not taking yourself so seriously."
Jennifer also said she wasn't worried about getting older: "I feel like I felt when I was 28. My bones don't hurt, I feel great. When I was in my twenties I wasn't sure of myself. Now I can really stretch. I don't have to stay in a box. At this point I can say to myself, 'So what if I fall, so what?' I'm going to get back up."